I remember as a child, sitting on the back porch at nights with my older sister and looking up at the stars. Back then in the mid 80's the air was not as polluted as it is now. The sky was clear and the stars really did glisten and twinkle, the air was fresh and welcoming. I would suck the fresh night air through my nose and my sister would tell me about the constellations. I used to think if I looked hard enough, I would see heaven. I loved the summer nights sky and watching the fireflies dance around.
As a child I didn't know exactly what was "right" or what was "wrong". I would take chances and my mother would definitely be there with a hand or belt to let me know which was what. lol. Ah man.........I would close my eyes and dream. I always dreamt big. I will never forget the first time I saw the E! channel at age 6 and watched my first fashion show. I knew there was a world out there and I wanted to either be on that runway or designed the clothes that were. I wanted that life. I saw something in that tv that awaken my desires that would later be the reason that I work as hard as I do now.
But this blog is not about my aspiration or my ambitions. No, I wanted to set the stage on from a child's mind to an adult's mind. In between the stages of childhood to adulthood is puberty: with raging hormones and the quest to "fit in" somewhere. As humans, we all want to belong. I have yet to read if this is one's own desires in our human make-up or is this quest is something that society has created for us.
My main food for thought for this particular blog is: How did we get from point A to point C? When did we lose our focus? And how much are we willing to sacrifice what we believe in for someone else? Or to "fit in"?
This is a moral blog. I was approached by an "acquaintance" for a favor. This person wanted me to pee in a cup so they could obtain employment. I told this person "no". That I will not be able to accommodate on their request. Well, this person asked me for a favor and when you ask someone a favor the other person has a right to agree or disagree. This person was very upset that I disagree. And when I made my reasons known as to why I disagree they attacked me by saying it is not the same thing as robbing an old lady. The situation escalated and the text messages kept going back and forth.
This person said they done this a million times, and I said, well request the people who have helped you out in the past for help. I said "NO". My mind was made up. But this person made me question my own morals/principles for a moment. I had to text 2 people that I trust and highly respected for their opinion on the situation. Maybe "I" was overreacting. Maybe I was making this a bigger deal than it had to be. These two people responded that I was a correct. This situation bothered me because it has me thinking, this person has a master's degree and has been unemployed since 2010. This person accused me of wagging my finger at them--being judgmental. It is not place to judge. I'm not God. I just don't support someone who placed themselves in a situation and wants the "loop" hole way out.
How do we grow as people if we justify our actions, because we were unemployed, we smoked ganja and knowing that every company out there has a drug test, why would you put yourself in that situation, for something as easily as NOT doing drugs can cost you a job. The Bible says, that God judges all sins the same. Stealing a purse from an old lady is the same as taking someone else's urine and cheating to get a job. How is it that we weigh things morally different when we become an adult? When we were kids, "right" was "right" and "wrong" was "wrong". When did we find that "gray" area? Did we discover it on our own as a way to "fit in" or did society tell us?
I intelligently responded to this person with my text messages. I gave this person food for thought to think about, by questioning their behavior and dismissing their new found criticism of me. And even with their master's degree and so quick to always think they know everything, I realize that this person may have successfully beaten the system, by answering the homework and test questions correct, to obtain their degree, but this person will always lack ethics. You can have book smart, and common sense, but when you don't have moral stability, you don't have a soul. And I find it interesting how this person's presumptuous choices will always keep them behind. And over the years I've watched this person fall a little bit further.
I may not be on that runway as yet, nor my clothes, but one thing I'll always have is integrity. It's not what you can do for a company any more....it is can you have integrity while doing it at the same time. It's a witch hunt now. People are upset because a CEO of a Fortune 500 company took the company private jet for a personal use. Which I have no problem with the CEO's choice. It is his company. People are always watching and they'll always see right through you.
The point is, that I can't support what I don't believe in. We may not agree, but you should always respect someone who is not easily persuaded and calling me names will not deter. And if you make your bed, lie in it.
As a child I didn't know exactly what was "right" or what was "wrong". I would take chances and my mother would definitely be there with a hand or belt to let me know which was what. lol. Ah man.........I would close my eyes and dream. I always dreamt big. I will never forget the first time I saw the E! channel at age 6 and watched my first fashion show. I knew there was a world out there and I wanted to either be on that runway or designed the clothes that were. I wanted that life. I saw something in that tv that awaken my desires that would later be the reason that I work as hard as I do now.
But this blog is not about my aspiration or my ambitions. No, I wanted to set the stage on from a child's mind to an adult's mind. In between the stages of childhood to adulthood is puberty: with raging hormones and the quest to "fit in" somewhere. As humans, we all want to belong. I have yet to read if this is one's own desires in our human make-up or is this quest is something that society has created for us.
My main food for thought for this particular blog is: How did we get from point A to point C? When did we lose our focus? And how much are we willing to sacrifice what we believe in for someone else? Or to "fit in"?
This is a moral blog. I was approached by an "acquaintance" for a favor. This person wanted me to pee in a cup so they could obtain employment. I told this person "no". That I will not be able to accommodate on their request. Well, this person asked me for a favor and when you ask someone a favor the other person has a right to agree or disagree. This person was very upset that I disagree. And when I made my reasons known as to why I disagree they attacked me by saying it is not the same thing as robbing an old lady. The situation escalated and the text messages kept going back and forth.
This person said they done this a million times, and I said, well request the people who have helped you out in the past for help. I said "NO". My mind was made up. But this person made me question my own morals/principles for a moment. I had to text 2 people that I trust and highly respected for their opinion on the situation. Maybe "I" was overreacting. Maybe I was making this a bigger deal than it had to be. These two people responded that I was a correct. This situation bothered me because it has me thinking, this person has a master's degree and has been unemployed since 2010. This person accused me of wagging my finger at them--being judgmental. It is not place to judge. I'm not God. I just don't support someone who placed themselves in a situation and wants the "loop" hole way out.
How do we grow as people if we justify our actions, because we were unemployed, we smoked ganja and knowing that every company out there has a drug test, why would you put yourself in that situation, for something as easily as NOT doing drugs can cost you a job. The Bible says, that God judges all sins the same. Stealing a purse from an old lady is the same as taking someone else's urine and cheating to get a job. How is it that we weigh things morally different when we become an adult? When we were kids, "right" was "right" and "wrong" was "wrong". When did we find that "gray" area? Did we discover it on our own as a way to "fit in" or did society tell us?
I intelligently responded to this person with my text messages. I gave this person food for thought to think about, by questioning their behavior and dismissing their new found criticism of me. And even with their master's degree and so quick to always think they know everything, I realize that this person may have successfully beaten the system, by answering the homework and test questions correct, to obtain their degree, but this person will always lack ethics. You can have book smart, and common sense, but when you don't have moral stability, you don't have a soul. And I find it interesting how this person's presumptuous choices will always keep them behind. And over the years I've watched this person fall a little bit further.
I may not be on that runway as yet, nor my clothes, but one thing I'll always have is integrity. It's not what you can do for a company any more....it is can you have integrity while doing it at the same time. It's a witch hunt now. People are upset because a CEO of a Fortune 500 company took the company private jet for a personal use. Which I have no problem with the CEO's choice. It is his company. People are always watching and they'll always see right through you.
The point is, that I can't support what I don't believe in. We may not agree, but you should always respect someone who is not easily persuaded and calling me names will not deter. And if you make your bed, lie in it.
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